Tag: Love

The Relationship’s Today!

I worked on a Wedding show for television.
And learnt something that would make me teach how things worked in the years to come. “Storytelling” and “stories” are the two things that connect us the most. A good story, Told beautifully or interestingly would hook us on immediately. That was the foundation of marriage: Make someone believe they are in love with you over and over again until the “Drama” and “Nonsense” won’t be tolerated or “You are exposed” and can’t hide the truth behind the “affair” or sudden suspicion that you are dealing with. Going over hundreds of stories and looking for the right one was “Essential” The one that should be telecasted and would bring the eyeballs to keep the audience interested. “The Love” “The second marriage” The divorce, The triangle and the backgrounds were all some of the criteria. While this you would believe is just a real story. The Reel Story is made to be believed and looked more real in many ways.


When I look around people who have either been married for too long or haven’t got married at all. All I see is that they are trying to make it work, have made a deal to make it work or are too afraid to leave the marriage to start all over again. Many reasons ( Family Pressure, Society Pressure, Confidence, Pain of going through loneliness and afraid they might fall into the trap with somebody else)(At this moment a known devil is better than the unknown. )
Marriage/Relationship: Shouldn’t be something we fall under “Peer or Family” Pressure. The post-marriage, if it doesn’t work out can be hard to deal with psychologically
Coming back to the question, how do we choose the one?


Well, Today there are many factors to consider when getting into a relationship besides of course Compatibility and how can this transition become more successful rather than getting declined.
Environmental factors, Geographical factors, and others are very critical of the political factors (If we follow the ideology of the same political party) if we are tolerant with humour, Sarcasm and Freedom.
Considering so many filters that one has to consider when looking for a relationship/marriage to last or vice versa for a relationship first to last until marriage and marriage to last until one becomes intolerant of each other.
It has only made it more difficult to find the right one rather than believing too many filters would help us in giving more clarity to the choices.


And now imagine the worst of the lot: You suddenly notice people moving from smaller towns to bigger cities and this brings its own set of challenges and problems. While trust issues aren’t the real issues. It’s the how will one settle when one goes back home or how will they take the changes of all the bigger city? Wouldn’t one definition, meaning and expectation of love, relationships and marriage change from this exposure?
Will Love, relationships and words that are associated with bonding, friendship and companionship just remain words in the dictionary like a glossary used for historical references?

Indian Matchmaking! Now Streaming

It’s Funny! How many things I have done related to weddings, Right from a  show on a popular television channel that highlighted a designer doing a makeover for the bride for their wedding to ending up in Wedding planning with a destination wedding planning organisation to being one of the contenders for the series on the streaming platform. And over the years, working with so many different aspects of weddings & relationship, there are quite a few things I learnt, and quite a few questions to those who answer aren’t justified. 
While working on the makeover for the bride about five years ago, I realised girls and women are now taking their time to settle down, They are more confident and independent. 
While working with wedding planners – I Realised marriage is more of a “Show Business” 
And while auditioning for “India Matchmaking” It was the first time  I got the answer to some of the question, which I always looked for. 
“Why do people get married” – A Question which is never asked by the boy & girl who would be spending their life together. 
What do I really look in a partner – The Answer to this question is always looking at a friends/ role model’s marriage and answering those points without looking into what the person is actually looking for?
Why haven’t you found anybody yet and why arranged marriage? – Maybe it truly is the fault in my stars. 
And lastly, when the series streamed and I watched the complete series, none of the genders knew exactly what they were looking for in each other? 
While the fascination for the west and international audience on the concept of “Arrange Marriage/ Matchmaking”  questioned them about the Indian culture of marriage in many ways, Why is our media shying away from admitting who we are actually? 
Why is marriage so important? Today thank god. Marriage by some isn’t prioritised like a Goal or landmark. While for the others their only “Goal” is to be married not because they are “ready”, not because they have “connected” but rather because of the peer & family pressure that forces them not to question what marriage is? Why some question it too much and have high expectations, others just follow the checklist one should follow in a regular “Life” 
   

Sibling rivalry or love ?

Today I just came across an interesting thought while sipping my coffee ,and overheard two people speak about…. How having a sibling (sister) can make any difference when it comes to behaving in front of a girl.,it’s a little difficult for me to write this because I have a sibling (sister) and don’t know how living without one would be like, but all I can say it’s a little easy to understand the other girls because I live with my sister ,I know you would say nobody can understand a girl but you can surely understand them a little better, about their
emotional needs and what they might like or dislike ,when is it a good time to speak to them and when to leave them ,it take years but I have grown up with my sister and her friends so I can understand what it might be like to be a guy with a sibling and understand the other girls .also a sibling (sister ) can give you a foundation of how to behave in front of girls
Imagine not having a sister just makes me wonder that I might just be a little more shy than I am now ,a little less confident and nervous when taking to girls

One night stand/Date rape 

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The peer pressure can sometimes lead to circumstances, which can change your life within few seconds of the moment.

The teens too can be a difficult time for the guy & girls because it’s here where a lot of hormonal change that happens which in biological terms known as puberty and teens phase is known as the adolescent. Here I talking about this time and later in life when we hunt for a partner desperately but we might not really know what we are in for. Is it just the mind saying I have found somebody to show off to my friends and then the guy taking advantage? Or is it mutual admiration from both ends that see a future in the relationship if not in the long run but in the short run till you find the right one. Sometimes to find a companion is good enough. One can’t hit a bull’s eye in a go. So you keep trying by going out on date. And this also helps you fulfill your sexual desires. Like the girl who kissed a thousand toads before she met her charming prince. But are being used in your pursuit to find your Mr Right.

You might not know the answer until a situation arises and you might be taken advantage off especially when you are a girl. A blind date or a one-night stand can lead you to a disaster. This happened  to friend of  mine. She was very excited to meet this guy who she met in a chatroom. She bought a new dress to impress him since he claimed he was a son of a millionaire. They had dinner at a restaurant and then he got her drunk to the core at a pub. As an unexpected turn she was forced to fulfill his dirty sexual desires. She was too weak to retaliate. She was made to feel ugly almost like a whore. Her dreams, her youthful charm, her innocence, they all crashed in that one hour of extreme sexual molestation. She was looking forward to a healthy romantic relationship but she could barely walk out of the apartment that she was taken to by this self-proclaimed millionaire son. She was in physical pain but more of emotional trauma since she felt abused and emotionally cheated. So friends be very careful… you could be next. You too could become a victim of date rape. It could be even your boyfriend who you are seeing for a long time. He could lose control of himself and treat you like a prostitute. He could force his ugliness down your throat. Don’t take it lightly cause the scars that remain may torment you for a long long time. So stand up for your rights as a girl, as a woman. Don’t succumb to exploitation of any sorts just out peer pressure or to look socially uptight. A date is a romantic evening to share love and not to be used like an object of physical abuse or to pass on emotional trauma. Live to love and make love. Don’t make a love a means of living.

For more tips on finding love and your soulmate read the romantic caper novel Tiger Mates…

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So what if am I gay/lesbian I am in love

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“Just look there see how they are sitting ,look look see how they getting close to each other ”
This is how the conversation was happenning when a Aunt witnessed seeing a lesbian couple in love .
Yes it can become very uncomfortable if you aren’t used to being around homosexual people but at the same time they did not choose to be like that ,they were not given a choice whether they wanted to be a male or female or rather be both of them at once .
They have the equal rights, all the benefits we get as either a male or female in are lifetime ,the privacy ,the jobs ,and an equal right of belongings to the earth and citizen of the country .They face too much of in -equality ,from a lot of people around them and so instead of making more fun about them we should try not being against them .
Let them be ,let them enjoy their time of being in love when they have found one ,let them be allowed to marry the one they want to live with .
Also why do we forget the designers not all but quite a few of them who’s design we aspire to own are all gays or lesbian ,so all I am saying is give them a chance to live , let them be free and let them  fly to the reach their destiny. If they are given absolute freedom they will enjoy their existence like all of us and find love and purpose in whatever they are doing.

To find your love and purpose check out the novel Tiger Mates written by the screenwriter of DON2.

Here is the link to buy it online:http://www.amazon.in/Tiger-Mates-Romantic-Caper-Novel/dp/1482836629/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1423129220&sr=8-1-fkmr0&keywords=TigerMates+by+amrish+shah